We live in a Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram world with so. much. pressure.
We are seeing a million mothers at their best but what we don’t see is mothers at their worst. Often, we are not getting the whole story. Think about our mothers that raised us, they didn't have the kind of social pressure we have, they went to the park and then got home and checked their answering machine to see who might have called them. They didn't have the temptation of the entire world at their finger tips. We are in the most challenging time, because we want to be present for our kids and we don’t want to compare our lives to all these other moms but it often feels nearly impossible.
We want to invite you on a journey with us. We are addicted to our phones just like you, we stress out about planing the perfect Pinterest-worthy birthday parties, we try to take cool photos of our kids and buy them cool clothes, we are doing all of this and although it's all bad, it's not the full story. Most of time we are just trying to make it through the day, we are fighting those mom-guilt feelings that we are we are not enough, the feelings that want to suck us into a shame storm and isolate us into believing that we are not cut out for this motherhood thing.
If you saw us on social media, at a coffee shop, or at the park, you may think we have it all together and that we are “those moms." But we want to say enough is enough, let's unite this culture of mothers... and we want you to join us in our desire for honesty.
Let's be real about the time, sacrifice and work it takes to make it through the day... Or the craziness it takes to make our lives look "good", whether you've got an instagram profile to keep up with, or you're throwing a huge party, or having friends over for dinner. Let's be vulnerable enough to say we often struggle. We hate feeling like we have to constantly keep up with a certain image, online or in person.
So instead of sitting around and always comparing ourselves all the time, let's spend more time working on our souls... asking the hard questions of motherhood: did I intentionally look in to my child’s eyes today? Did I listen? Was I kind? Did I try my best? Did I take a minute to practice gratitude?
Let's applaud each other for the things that matter, let's show our children that life is not what you do but about who you are becoming … and let's ask ourselves, are we the type of people we want our kids to become?